Have a Life and A Husband Part 1


Now, I just turned 38. I’ve been married for the better part of 19 years, and my son is 14 years old. My first job was babysitting at 13, and I’ve worked pretty much ever since. So for the past 25 years, I have pushed myself well beyond exhaustion, put strain on my family and myself in the desire to turn my dreams into recognizable results, and all I can say is that I’m lucky that I have a patient, supportive husband, and a great kid.

In addition to working full-time as a content strategist, I’ve also written 8 novels, hundreds of poems and short stories, and I’m a wife, mother, and frequent drunk dialer to my friends.

Now, it’s important that you know that I’m something of a Type A person on steroids. I must complete goals, and I’ll do whatever it takes to reach a goal which usually means working ungodly hours and foregoing sleep for weeks at a time. For example, for most of the past 8 years, I worked an average of 60 hours a week, but at times, I worked up to 120 hours per week (slept 3 hours each night). During that time, I still managed to write the rough draft of at least one novel a year and usually managed at least one revision of another novel in the year.

giphySo…balance. Yeah, I’m getting to it.

What I learned is that I couldn’t do everything. Something had to give. So, I gave up my six-figure income as a salesperson and went to grad school to focus on writing. That was one huge adjustment, and it hurt like hell—financially and emotionally for me to give up such a career. But, I had to do it because I was exhausted deep in my soul. I had to accept the fact that sleeping 3 hours a night wasn’t healthy for anyone, and my family was really getting the short end of the stick because I was either too tired, too stressed, or too damn grouchy to be around.

To Be Continued…
Crystal R.

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