One of my boujie girls sent me a message ranting about the bad behavior of their ex, post breakup. She didn’t understand how two people, who were once in love, are now enemies. I call this the ‘post breakup blues’. When a couple breaks up and someone is either guilty or bitter about it, emotions will cause everything that happens after the breakup messy, especially if the breakup is inamicable.
The hardest thing about a breakup is moving on with your life without the other person. I’ve always admired couples that break up and end up the best of friends. I don’t know how it’s done but it amazes me. My advise to her, and to anyone else who is dealing with a ex-emy (ex and enemy), is you do not have to get into the ring with someone who wants a fight.
The best advice I got when I was going through my divorce is don’t bother. Get what you need and move on. It isn’t always that easy. Sometimes kids are involved, someone owes money, your favorite CD won’t be returned, all kind of drama from a childish party. Do not give this person anymore than you need to. Arguing, returning text messages, arguing over text messages should stop. They can’t fight with themselves, unless you were with someone who’s bi-polar, so eventually they have to stop. The more you put up with, the more they are going to give. Remember, this is their only way of communicating with you right now. Hurt people hurt people. Again it could be the injured party or the guilty party acting up; people respond to break-ups differently.
Texting an angry emojie…