Face My Body… The Seriousness of Suicide

Karyn-WashingtonThis week a fellow blogger, Karyn Washington, 22, Creator of For Brown Girls Blog has reportedly committed suicide. This comes as shock to many people because she blogged about women of color valuing themselves and appreciating who they are, despite what society may think of them. She especially wanted to uplift women with a darker hue to love themselves. I admit that I was not a reader of her blog but her story really intrigued me. There is something to be said about internal wars people experience and Karyn is an example of why this needs to be looked at closer.

Whenever I hear a report of someone committing suicide, the first question that pops into my head, and likely into yours, is why did they do it? There are several women like Karyn who faced hard times or was going through something that got to the point when they thought death was easier. What I’ve learned through getting life coached is to recognize when you are not in a good mood, especially if it is a feeling that is consistent, to try and turn that emotion or reaction around. For example, if I’m having a bad day and it puts me in a really bad mood, I will give myself a day to let the emotion out and once I have cooled off, I will start the next day with a plan to turn my situation around. I’ll have that day to feel funky but it will not go on another day. Another example is if I am fighting with someone I am close to, I will keep a picture of them out, during the good times, with a message behind the picture of who they really are, so I remember and forgive them. There are a few more techniques I can explain in tomorrow’s post.

Screen-Shot-2014-04-11-at-5.25.44-AM-300x300My heart is heavy because for someone so young to feel like this was the only way out is very sad. It is really important that if you are having dark thoughts to talk to someone. If you don’t have anyone to talk to, send me a message and though we may be strangers, sometimes the ear of a stranger is better than the voices in your head. Also, if you don’t want to talk to anyone, then consider doing an activity (not binge eating ß not the boujie way) that will uplift your spirit. Go to church, exercise, start knitting or crocheting, anything to get you out of that mood. (Look at the list of numbers at the end of the post of an anonymous help line)

I am not ashamed to say I have faced those dark thoughts and have had weaker moments but my medical medicine was the Bible, my room and a candle. I got out of it by listening to more positive music that was happier and I worked out outside, not a gym. Every time I pounded the pavement, I took one step closer to recovery. I would also read a trashy book! I don’t know why a trashy book helped but it would bring me into a new world that was not mine and after a little bit of time, I was happier. My only regret was not reaching out to my loved ones sooner. I realized, later on, they were there for me even when I didn’t know it, just like yours likely are. Stay true to yourself, be healthy and know you are not alone.

Rest in Peace Karyn, you are gone but not forgotten….
BOUJIE MACK

  • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (Call 24/7) 1-800-273-8255
  • HOPELINE 1-800-442-HOPE

Get Help Now (Thanks Kristin Brooks Hope Center for providing with the following information)

For Telephone support:
Here is a list of our hotlines in the US

  • (800)442-4673 …..1-800-442-HOPE
  • (877)838-2838 …..1-877-Vet2Vet Veterans peer support line
  • (800)784-2432 …..1-800-SUICIDA Spanish speaking suicide hotline
  • (877)968-8454 …..1-877-YOUTHLINE teen to teen peer counseling hotline
  • (800)472-3457 …..1-800-GRADHLP Grad student hotline
  • (800)773-6667 …..1-800-PPD-MOMS Post partum depression hotline

For a list of hotlines outside the US go here:
www.befrienders.org

For email support 24 x 7:
jo@samaritans.org
It may take a few hours or more to generate a response

For online chat support:
(none of these are 24 x7 but will tell you if online counselors are available)

www.IMALIVE.org
The first online network with 100% of its volunteers trained and certified in crisis intervention.

www.7cupsoftea.com
7 Cups of Tea is an on-demand emotional health and well-being service. Anyone who wants to talk about whatever is on their mind can quickly reach out to a trained, compassionate listener through this network.

www.crisischat.org
12 crisis centers which are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (NSPL) and provide chat support in their areas of service.

More Resources: http://hopeline.com/gethelpnow.html

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