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It is not wonder that most boujie girls hold higher positions like lawyers, accountants, office managers, ahem professors J , authors, etc. The truth is most of the men up where we are career and salary wise either can’t stand a boujie girl and run, or the market is smaller. The bigger dating market is the blue-collar man. I’m not saying the blue-collar man is any less then the baller, but they are more available. The pool of men who reach the high standard for boujie girls are getting smaller and smaller every day, so why fight and claw at that small pool of boujie men? Go for the nicer less maintenance guy. He might not have everything you have ladies, but it’s not about things, it’s about how he treats you.
I’ve had friends for over 10-20 years. If we are beefing and I see one of them in tears because of the frustration taken out from our argument or tiff, I don’t think I could ever tell them to take their crocodile tears to a shop, (or whatever she said.) That’s my friend who is likely jealous of where I am and she is looking at herself, which is why she could be acting up. Girlfriends go through that. Hello!!!
Nothing will get you dumped faster when you decided to act like your boujie girl ain’t going nowhere. I have news for all of you men who think you don’t have to do anything to make your girl feel special. YOU WILL GET DUMPED. I understand the honeymoon period is over and you are settled in your relationship and all, but damn did you have to flip on us? I saw a guy swing a door open and didn’t even wait for his girl to walk through. You don’t want to hold the door bro!? (I woulda left by the way) I mean if you act a certain way early in the relationship, we are going to expect you to stay consistent. Why change? Keep the fires going or you will get burned!!!!
Here are the rules, Boujie Girls do not have to ask for anything. Don’t ask him SHIT. If he doesn’t know to get you at least a card, then you should know what to do with him. Some of you are expecting extravagant gifts and it has only been 3 months. If he didn’t start with extravagant gifts then don’t hold your breath. If it has been six years and you never got anything but a card…again- DON’T HOLD YOUR BREATH!
If you are in a relationship with a man who will not commit to you, you are a concubine.
If he is married and is promising to leave his wife for you, you are a concubine.
If he is only going to your house and you have never been to his house, you are a concubine.
If none of his friends or family know who you are, you are a concubine.
If you hear from him every once in a while and it’s just for sex or when he hits you up for money, you are a concubine and possibly an ATM.
I’m sorry, 30-40 plus year old rappers need not apply. “Starting my own record label and I’m about to blow,” also, please do not apply. Short man syndrome, complaining that all women want is money and tall dudes with big dicks, DO NOT APPLY! Who wouldn’t want a nice tall man, with a big dick and money?! PLEASE!
She is the perfect definition of doing you Boujie Style. Beyonce took her time to date someone, marry them and then have a baby. Some of us are going backwards. This isn’t how all families have to be but you can not knock how much better this can work.
You make your own rules in this world but know you will live and die by them too. Who you choose to be is who they are going to think of you as. You choose to be a bitch, get treated like one. If you think being hard is how you are going to get ahead or get a King, you are wrong, SORRY! Bitches don’t become happy wives or even become wives at all. Your defenses and lack of class doesn’t make you Boujie it makes you a BITCH and in my book you are a little girl who needs to grow up.
Now, before I get a call from my ex’s lawyer claiming I’m ruining his name or some bullshit, let me be clear. My ex was very polite, he opened our car doors for me (except that time when he tried to throw me out the car…but it’s all good.) held the door open for me to walk through and was pretty chivalrous for the most part but he never held out my chair. I only saw that in movies.
Men are nicer when they are younger. They seem to be more eager to please when they are young. The question I ask my Boujie circle is what happens to them when they get older? What happens to the 21 year old boy? They are also emotional and can become psycho, (remember Love Me Mackie Boy? Never again!) but younger guys are sweet. When they get their first heartache, they leave the planet and never return. WTF!
Being supportive does NOT mean you go broke for someone who may not do the same for you. ATM does not mean, “automatically take my-money.” Access to your funds need to be for you. Cause if your lights go off trying to take care of someone else, you are the only one screwed.
Some low self-esteemed men are like that. Rejection somehow in their heads means she really wants me. They chase harder and harder…meanwhile your main squeeze has no clue on how to behave with you. Uh! The way the world works. I’m get back to you guys on this one…
Well because him and I remained friendly, we would chat occasionally and I once “poked” him on Facebook. While he was defending befriending me and him wanting to show me his penis (I told them that) he said, “Well she’s the one who poked me on Facebook!” I was told there was a brief moment of silence until one of them said… “wait…she poked you?”
The lack of unity amongst women blows me away. Ever notice men don’t have to know each other yet somehow they always have each other’s backs? Can we really say the same? Since everyone is out for self these days, there is no unity or even sympathy between women. This kind of thinking is going to leave some of you ladies, if you even still deserve that title, alone with a truck load of bad karma. Remember karma is the universe’s way of telling/ showing you- you didn’t get away with that crap!
Who is right and who is wrong? I think to avoid all awkwardness cut off the dude. He is likely to be gone in some years (or days for some) and you may want to keep the girlfriend around. Putting a guy first is just not the Boujie way!!!