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If you are serious and choose to take off the condom, make sure you and your partner are monogamous. Know what the possibilities are of pregnancies and what you want in both of your futures. Get tested together so you know where each other stand. Be safe…sheesh I know if feels good but pills and shots don’t feel good either. Neither do crying babies!
It is not wonder that most boujie girls hold higher positions like lawyers, accountants, office managers, ahem professors J , authors, etc. The truth is most of the men up where we are career and salary wise either can’t stand a boujie girl and run, or the market is smaller. The bigger dating market is the blue-collar man. I’m not saying the blue-collar man is any less then the baller, but they are more available. The pool of men who reach the high standard for boujie girls are getting smaller and smaller every day, so why fight and claw at that small pool of boujie men? Go for the nicer less maintenance guy. He might not have everything you have ladies, but it’s not about things, it’s about how he treats you.
Nothing will get you dumped faster when you decided to act like your boujie girl ain’t going nowhere. I have news for all of you men who think you don’t have to do anything to make your girl feel special. YOU WILL GET DUMPED. I understand the honeymoon period is over and you are settled in your relationship and all, but damn did you have to flip on us? I saw a guy swing a door open and didn’t even wait for his girl to walk through. You don’t want to hold the door bro!? (I woulda left by the way) I mean if you act a certain way early in the relationship, we are going to expect you to stay consistent. Why change? Keep the fires going or you will get burned!!!!
Here are the rules, Boujie Girls do not have to ask for anything. Don’t ask him SHIT. If he doesn’t know to get you at least a card, then you should know what to do with him. Some of you are expecting extravagant gifts and it has only been 3 months. If he didn’t start with extravagant gifts then don’t hold your breath. If it has been six years and you never got anything but a card…again- DON’T HOLD YOUR BREATH!
If you are in a relationship with a man who will not commit to you, you are a concubine.
If he is married and is promising to leave his wife for you, you are a concubine.
If he is only going to your house and you have never been to his house, you are a concubine.
If none of his friends or family know who you are, you are a concubine.
If you hear from him every once in a while and it’s just for sex or when he hits you up for money, you are a concubine and possibly an ATM.
You make your own rules in this world but know you will live and die by them too. Who you choose to be is who they are going to think of you as. You choose to be a bitch, get treated like one. If you think being hard is how you are going to get ahead or get a King, you are wrong, SORRY! Bitches don’t become happy wives or even become wives at all. Your defenses and lack of class doesn’t make you Boujie it makes you a BITCH and in my book you are a little girl who needs to grow up.
Now, before I get a call from my ex’s lawyer claiming I’m ruining his name or some bullshit, let me be clear. My ex was very polite, he opened our car doors for me (except that time when he tried to throw me out the car…but it’s all good.) held the door open for me to walk through and was pretty chivalrous for the most part but he never held out my chair. I only saw that in movies.
Some low self-esteemed men are like that. Rejection somehow in their heads means she really wants me. They chase harder and harder…meanwhile your main squeeze has no clue on how to behave with you. Uh! The way the world works. I’m get back to you guys on this one…
I had a rough week with my editors and at a weak moment I answered him and sent him my number telling him it was ONLY for business. Anyone who knows me knows I don’t even put my number on my business cards that how much I don’t want people to have instant access to me. Anyways, he promised he wasn’t like that and he just wanted to talk about publishing over drinks. The second I sent my number and he started talking foolishness and how much he can’t wait to see me. I felt God SHHH (Shaking His Holy Head). Sure enough, I soon get a Facebook message that he “lost” my number and for me to please sent it to him. Oh really? (Go God)
How about just “Hi, you look really nice,” with a smile or bring up something interesting that would strike up a conversation. Very few things can scare a woman, but one thing that can scare us off is a wayyyy too eager man. Just a tip!
I think you need to feel out people first. I always say make in an investment if you are going to find love on the net personally. If people don’t make the time to set up a profile, how serious are they?
If you want to get with a Boujie Girl…know what to not say before you open your mouth.
Wrap your minds around this, when it’s over, it’s just that over. Get excited about better. If you thought that person was the shit, imagine what’s to come. Usually in the near future you realize they really were not all that they were cracked up to be anyways, but you can now chop it up to life’s experience. Sorry Reggie, you sexy motha….
Do something sexy like at the movies, the nasty picture you took, show it to them calmly like a text message and put your phone away. It’s random and exciting. If you are going to do it, do it smart.
I hope for The Dream’s sake he finds an understanding with himself. For a man who is I believe 29 or 30ish, he needs to find peace in what he’s doing with his life. He has 4 children and possibly 2 ex wives? It’s clear this behavior is detrimental to his life. He doesn’t need blogs and other media outlets to push him down any further. According to some news reports, he attempted suicide? That is serious!